Recently I asked all of you what you would like me to explain and speak about live on FACEBOOK.
Therefore, this Thursday 14th July at 12.30pm I will be chatting about self-fulfilling prophecy.
A self-fulfilling prophecy can be directed at yourself, another person, a group, or even objects. Our thoughts can dramatically alter our behaviour. Our behaviour, in turn, can affect the likelihood of getting things we want.
- Mrs Henderson, a teacher assumed that her student, Mark, was not bright. He struggled with listening in the classroom and was always talking. Mrs Henderson, felt frustrated with having to continually tell Mark off. She gave Mark less encouragement and believing that he was a problem, she gave him less attention, resulting in an even more poorer performance. Mark then caused more problems in the classroom and began pushing other students and becoming the class clown.
Mrs Henderson, in turn, felt her assumption was validated.
Allow me to introduce to you another self-fulfilling prophecy!
- Paul was losing weight at an even pace then a couple of months later, he started to doubt his ability to keep it up. He began to start dreading that inevitable day when the results stop coming. He began fearing going back to his old ways because he just KNEW it was bound to happen. And after thinking this way for a few weeks and doubting himself, he began to start anticipating his own failure. He stopped trying as hard as he was before. He started taking shortcuts and cheating. And then it happened: the pounds began to come back on.Paul felt so disheartened that he completely lost motivation, thinking “what’s the point?” and began to go back to his old habits. The voice in his head said “Who were you to think you could change?”This is a self-fulfilling prophecy: the reason many people fail when aiming to achieve something they never have before.Allow me to introduce to you more….
- Jasmine believed she would do poorly during an admission interview. Her expectation that someone else would get the place. Her anxiety over doing poorly caused her to do poorly at the interview, validating her negative self-assessment and she didn’t get offered a place!
- Linda felt that she was not good enough for her handsome husband and believed he would leave her for someone more beautiful.He assured her that he loved her and bought her flowers, but she was certain he had cheated on her and was only buying the flowers because he was guilty. He couldn’t do right! In the end, he developed a friendship with a work colleague that led into a relationship. Hazel’s assumption was validated.
Self-fulfilling prophecies are so common that we see them all the time playing out in novels, films and on the TV.
The best known story is about the Greek legend of Oedipus.
Laius was warned that his son Oedipus would kill him, therefore Laius abandoned the child to die.
Oedipus was raised by foster parents and he, too, was warned that when he grew up he would kill his father and marry his mother.
Fearing that this prediction might come true, Oedipus abandoned his foster parents and entered the city. There he fought with a stranger—his father—and married the stranger’s widow, who was Oedipus’s biological mother.
Have you come up against a self-fulfilling prophecy? How did you shut it down, or what did you learn from its fulfillment for the next time around? Let’s start a little convo!
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