For many parents empty nest syndrome occurs most often in October, well after children have left for university. When the kids have left home, parents may feel sadness, loneliness, emptiness, guilt, and uselessness.
Although my eldest went to uni then returned after 6 months and my daughter was at uni for 3 years, I always had the youngest at home, so there was always his friends coming and going in the house, making our home still feel “alive”.
Within the last 5 years all three of my children have left home and I have moved house.
My years of being a hands-on Mum are now over, creating the most disturbing identity theft of my life. Luckily for me that four years ago I became a Grandma and it was like buses, they all came along at once and now there are four – with one more due at the end of October.
I thought the busy years were over!
Yet 5 years ago, I had invested so much time with my kids that it was a real challenge dealing with a household of one! The years of shopping for the special treats each child enjoyed were over. I remember my fridge looking bare and I felt at a loss.
So how can you put your life back together and learn to cope with the stress of empty nest syndrome?
Ignoring the problem is not the answer.
- Learn to experience a sense of power and control in your own life.
- Face the situation straight on and do not compromise feelings.
- Allow yourself to feel the pain, the confusion, and change and cry if you need to.
- Look at this new chapter as a time of adventure, discovery and creativity.
- Play the music you enjoy each day and dance if you want to.
- Share your talents and abilities. Maybe do some volunteer work.
- Laugh each day!
- Read the books you’ve been putting off for years.
- Share your time with friends who will support you in this transformation.
- Plan a holiday to somewhere you’ve always wanted to go
This could be the happiest and richest time of your life. So live with intention for love, joy, laughter and success!